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Co-Dependency test

Co- Dependent is any person whose life is affected as a result of her/ his involvement with a chemically dependent person. To find out if you are a co-dependent take this test.

Codependence Self-Test: Take this test for yourself or for someone you love.

Codependence Self-Test Indicate your response to the following statements:

I am in a significant relationship with someone who is addicted to a substance or a behavior, or someone who is depressed.	Yes	No
I feel responsible for almost everybody and everything, but I feel guilty much of the time.	Yes	No
I can’t say “no” without feeling guilty.	Yes	No
I can accurately “read” other people by analyzing their facial expressions and tone of voice.	Yes	No
I try very hard to please people, but I seldom feel that I measure up.	Yes	No
I feel that I have to protect people, especially the addicted or depressed person in my life.	Yes	No
I live in such a way that no one can ever say I’m selfish.	Yes	No
I vacillate between defending the irresponsible person and blowing up in anger at him or her.	Yes	No
I often relive situations and conversations to see if I can think of some way I could have done or spoken better.	Yes	No
I feel overly frightened of angry people.	Yes	No
I am terribly offended by personal criticism.	Yes	No
To avoid feeling guilt and shame, I seldom stand up to people who disagree with me.	Yes	No
I tend to see people and situations as “all good” or “all bad.”	Yes	No
Though I try to please people, I often feel isolated and alone.	Yes	No
I trust people too much or not at all.	Yes	No
I often try to get people I love to change their attitudes and behavior.	Yes	No
I tend to believe the addicted or depressed person’s promises, even if he or she has broken countless promises before.	Yes	No
Sometimes I have a lot of energy to help people, but sometimes I feel drained,depressed and ambivalent.	Yes	No
I often give advice, even when it isn’t requested.	Yes	No
I tend to confuse love with pity, and I tend to love those who need me to rescue them from their problems.	Yes	No
I believe I can’t be happy unless others, especially the needy people in my life,are happy.	Yes	No
I am often a victim in strained and broken relationships.	Yes	No
I am defensive when someone points out my faults.	Yes	No
My thoughts are often consumed with the troubles and needs of the addicted or depressed person in my life.	Yes	No
I feel wonderful when I can fix others’ problems, but I feel terrible when I can’t.	Yes	No

If you answered “yes” to 5 or fewer statements, you have relatively healthy boundaries, confidence and wisdom in relationships. You can care about people without feeling responsible for their choices.
If you answered “yes” to 6–12 statements, your life is shaped to a significant degree by the demands of needy people in your life. You often feel responsible for the choices others make, and you try too hard to help them make the right ones. You would benefit from the input of a competent counselor or support group.
If you answered “yes” to 13 or more statements, you have lost your sense of identity, and you are consumed by the problems of addicted or depressed people in your life. You can’t be happy unless you are rescuing irresponsible people from their destructive decisions. In reality, however, your hope for sanity and emotional health is not in that person getting well. You have to take steps to get well whether that person does or not. Find a counselor or support group to help you gain wisdom and strength

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